Dial M for Menopause



The M word.

Menopause.

Is it taboo to talk about? Seems we're not mentioning it much, but on this page it's mandatory. I will be posting links here to anything I write about the subject, or any links I find which amuse me. I will tell my own story, touching on the symptoms myself, with one part seriousness and nine parts humour, but I won't link the more serious, medical jargonish sites - there's plenty of them out there, just google them.

I want real, honest stories that I can nod and laugh at, so if you blog one, let me know (catep@live.com.au) and I'll link it here, or just leave a comment below about your experiences.

Let's all get hot together.

(and a mega thank you to a new friend, ms praxis, for the page title suggestion. brilliant!)


Check out these links, and make sure you read the comments on the blogs and on this page for more shared menopausal joy. 


Looking For Blue Sky shares some of her personal pros and cons of dealing with menopause

The Girl Who Kicked The Menopause Nest -  my own futile search on Australian women's websites for funny menopause stories by real people and the reason I started this page

Wendy loses her car and wants her pre-menopausal memory back

Minnie Pauz - a site where women from around the world share brief amusing anecdotes

madamemenopause - she of the 'plucking my tits' comment (see below) has started her own blog on her fun with the Big M

My Personal Guide To Menopause Madness - these things may ... okay, DO... apply to me

Madmother & Menopause - Tanya reveals the raging beast

Hot Flushes, Hot Flashes and The Gallons - Madmother is a different kind of 'hot'

Menopause News - a daily e-newspaper (this page gets a mention - yay)

Roseanne Barr on Menopause

Huffington Post- Menopause - a link to several stories





31 comments:

  1. It would be a great relief to join with other women who are going through perimenopausal/menopausal things. Why we do this stuff alone beats me, don't we do menarche in a beautiful, sisterly fashion? Time to beat a new path through this jungle!

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    1. Amen. I talk about it with friends occasionally, and we sure know how to laugh about it, but there's a bit of a gap online we should fill.

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  2. "Let's all get hot together"! Love. I'm hurtling towards menopause at breakneck speed. We need t-shirts.

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    1. I keep singing "I'm gonna make you sweat..."

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  3. Love this idea.So many conflicting things you read or hear from doctors.Will be great to read real life experiences and share and help one another.xx

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    1. My doctor said a couple of things which made me frown as I'd already investigated and found different answers. I think there's no 'rules', no 'averages', everyone has different experiences. Just hope we can all sweat and laugh together :)

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  4. I have Dialled M for Menopause today.

    Oh joy. Another period, less than 28 days since the last one, which was the first in three months. Weird and unexpected. And lame, like it's only trying halfheartedly. The deep red flow of my fecund days has given way to an almost anaemic trickle, sometimes barely a smear. Hardly worth it really. I'd rather it just stopped altogether because this is just embarrassing.

    And can we talk about hair? WTF's going on with the hair? I'm fair but a few months ago I discovered a hair which I believe rightly belonged to my partner andhad clearly transplanted itself from him to me, growing just to the right of my mouth. A dark, thick, man-like hair. Needless to say it went the way of the tweezers immediately but it CAME BACK! And was just as quickly removed again. Now I'm worried. Will there be more? Will they also be black and bristly? Will I start paying attention to ads for men's razors? Will I grow a beard? Terrifying thought as I'm blonde and pale. And the breast hairs. What's that about please? Not as tough or dark as the facial hair but still definitely there. I seem to spend an inordinate amount of time plucking these out of my boobs lately and I'm less than impressed. FFS I've never even plucked my eyebrows now I'm plucking my tits? This is horribly unfair and I want to know who I can lodge my complaint to.

    As a bit of background, without giving too much away, my partner is just about to turn 40 and freaking out a little about it. Since I'll be 49 in October and therefore "the F word" next year, this makes me laugh. But in a weird, freaked-out kind of way! We have been together just over nine years and I don't know how he will react to having a menopausal partner. This brings its own extra set of anxieties to me.

    So that's my update. How's everyone else doing?

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    1. I have been to my doctor with these things and been told I'm making a fuss about nothing and I can't menopause at 36 despite family history. Having had to pluck my tits this morning I beg to differ

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    2. Of course you can start at 36.... the proof is in the tit hair.
      But seriously, you can be peri-menopausal for YEARS before menopause proper.
      Now imagining how much tit hair you'll have by then...

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  5. Me again. Hmm. I don't blog. Never have. Even though I have a lot to say.

    Am I supposed to put my menopausal thoughts in here or do I need to start a little blog for that purpose so you will link to it Cate?

    Advice appreciated, otherwise I'll just keep cluttering up your blog with my perimenopausal thoughts and whitterings :)

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    1. I'm still wiping up the tea I spat when you said 'plucking my tits'. Split my sides laughing.
      Feel free to comment whenever on here, will add a note above for others to do likewise if they wish. And if one day you want to write about 500 - 600 words, just like the above which has me snorting, I'd be happy to 'guest post' it on my blog.

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    2. Have to agree I actually burst out loud laughing.What a hoot MsPraxis is.Im glad she has come to join the M party x

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  6. Oh dear! I'll have to change my handle when I post on here as I've used the same one I use on Twitter! O_O

    Thanks though - I will give some thought to a little blog. I guess I don't have to write every day, just when something menopausalish occurs. But I'd love to do a guest blog post one day Cate, thanks for the offer. Always happy to make people laugh :)

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    1. Please begin blogging IMMEDIATELY. Love love love your comments xx

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    2. And no, you don't have to blog every day, not even every week. Just when the urge hits. Hits like a hot flush...

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  7. madamemenopauseMay 2, 2012 at 5:05 AM

    Thanks Cate! I doubt I'll be able to write with the ease you do but I'll give it a go. If nothing else, it'll be good therapy for me ;)

    Cheers.

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  8. I already follow most of these! Woot!

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    1. P.S. It's Tanya, with a y not an i... just to be difficult!

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    2. Bugger, knew I'd pick the wrong spelling...

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    3. Thanks for fixing it!

      Have added another post... I think this may be a regular thing, sadly.

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    4. Have linked it. I feel your pain.

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  9. This is great, what an amazing idea. I haven't quite hit the M yet but I like to be prepared. Look forward to reading more...

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    1. Excellent, you can laugh AT us until you laugh WITH us ;)

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  10. This site is the most fun since I could remember where I put stuff. OK, maybe I don't feel all of your pain, but I certainly can see it over the fence. Living with the Big M demands the skill of suspending one's male, half brained existence and dipping into the twin realms of 'what next?' and 'well it couldn't get any wierder than this, right?'.
    I don't know why (or when) a natural transition became a medical condition, but I wouldn't judge any of you using chemical additives to smooth the bumps (this does not relate to tit hair).
    In our empty nest we are riding tandem with both menopause and manopause - luckily neither removes the ability to laugh at the other while claiming the higher ground as to which is a more genuine dysfunction.
    Keep sharing. And for another more technical look at the complications, can I suggest www.holditsister.com.

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    1. Good heavens, double whammy of meno- AND mano- .... you have to laugh or you'd cry! :)

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  11. These sites are a good read to help you relieve your stress from painful menopausal symptoms. There is no better way than to share the emotional and physical setbacks that you feel to other people who feel the same way as you do. We need this kind of support so that we feel that our situation is normal, and that we are not alone in this, as we go through menopause.

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  12. Not as tough or dark as the facial hair but still definitely there. I seem to spend an inordinate amount of time plucking these out of my boobs lately and I'm less than impressed.

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  15. Yay, kindred spirits. When the hot flushes hit, I thought to myself... easy peasy, I can handle this. After a month of 25 hot flushes a day I was ready to murder! :) Am now on the lowest does of HRT and it's bloody brilliant!

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    1. So glad you found us! It helps to share and laugh. Especially about how 'hot' we are ;)

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